I’m on the Radio!!

It’s funny when you want for something and God turns around and gives you more than what you wanted and adds some things you didn’t even think of. That’s what God has done for me. I had dreams of being on the radio discussing my book about marriage (which is still in the revision stage) but I had no idea that dream would be made reality this early. How did I make it from frustrated college student and full time mom of 2 to being on the radio? It was a simple case of favor. I work part time at a small indie press, P.R.A. Publishing out of Augusta,GA. The publisher thought it would be a good idea for me to do a radio interview and promote some upcoming events PRA is currently working on as well. I said sure…who would turn down the opportunity to be on the radio?!!

Needless to say, I’m excited! I didn’t ask to be on the radio, it was given to me because I dared to do something most people don’t bother doing…I believed in God’s promises. I know there is so much more in store for me and I welcome it with open arms! I’m ready for EVERYTHING God has for me!

Tune in at http://speakingwith.com/ by clicking ‘Listen Live’ on the right hand column today at 2pm!!! I will be discussing my internship experience with PRA and why I chose to go into the publishing industry!

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Marriage is a Partnership

Marriage is a partnership with 2 whole people coming together to become 1. At least that’s what I thought. Just taking a look at my facebook page and noticing how it seems the women are the ones who carry most of the load in the marriage. Their statuses are consisted of staying up late taking care of sick babies, having to stop homework to cook dinner, bath the kids and get them to bed. All the while I’m thinking, where are the husbands and what are they doing? I understand that the husbands have full time jobs, they wake up early to go to work and come home late. I understand when they come home all they want to do is….nothing. But the women are working full time too and contributing financially to the household so why can’t the husbands stay up late with the sick kid or give the kids a bath and put them to bed once in awhile?

If marriage is a partnership then both people should be helping each other. If marriage was a business and your name was on it, you would do what is necessary for the business, right? Well your name is on the marriage and your marriage is a reflection of you.

Then again, why have the wives allowed this to continue? Some of the women on my facebook page complain that they are stressed, tired, and overworked and they’ve complained for months. I’m thinking instead of complaning about it, DO something about it instead. First plan of action is talking to your husband and giving him a heads-up on your point of view on things. Secondly is to figure out how both people can contribute to the household so neither one is burned out.

Again, this is a partnership. It shouldn’t be one person’s responsibility to do everything. It is unfair, inconsiderate and rude to think it should be. Even if the wife doesn’t ask the husband to help, if the husband sees his wife struggling or tired, he should help out without being asked. It’s common sense to me.

But then again, I could be wrong…what do you think?

Love.

I have more than enough reasons to hate love, not want to be in love, not have

nothing to do with love but it’s just the opposite. I’m excited about love, excited

about falling in love, excited about feeling feelings I’ve never felt. I’m excited

about life, excited to be living, excited about what life has to offer. I’m ready for

love. Real love. Unconditional love. Love without limits-Love. Love that lasts

forever-Love. Love that extends beyond this world-Love. Love that never fails-

Love.

True Beauties Don’t Need Makeup

That’s what my mama always told me.

And yet, I watched her put on makeup every day.

But Mama didn’t need it.

Nothing on Mama needed to be changed.

It hurt that she didn’t agree with me.

 

She sat in her antique all white Victorian chair,

erect and proper as ever.

First the foundation which she applied three times over,

then the rose blush that she rubbed in small circles over her high cheekbones,

Cherry Wine eye shadow swiped over her eyelids,

next, five coats of black mascara separated her lashes,

and she finished the process with Plum lipstick.

Her black elbow length hair sat in a tight bun at the nape of her neck;

perfect and rigid as she.

 

Mama seemed to grow more weary as the days passed

by the ceremonious makeup routine.

I soon despised the substance that washed her self-esteem down the drain every day,

so I decided to teach them a lesson.

One by one I gave them all a new purpose.

I used the liquid foundation in my mud pies,

the powder blush I sprinkled on my play-dough cupcakes,

the eye shadow worked wonders in my pony picture;

I dipped a cotton swab in the mascara

and designed a dainty polka-dotted dress for my Barbie doll.

“Silly girl, do you know what you’ve done?!”

“You are beautiful Mama.

No cuts, bruises or scars on your face. What do you have to cover?”

She held me close and exhaled.

“The scars inside.”

Is Skinny the new Healthy?

Angelina Jolie, LeAnn Rimes, Kelly Ripa

What is the first thing that comes to mind when you see these women?

Beautiful, successful, maybe? Well the first thing that comes to my mind is eeww. Yes these women are beautiful and yes they are successful but they’re also very very very skinny!!! So skinny that it’s disgusting. Angelina, LeAnn and Kelly have all stated that despite how thin they are, they are also very healthy. Well, if that’s healthy, no thank you. I do not want it. I am not convinced by any stretch of the imagination that these women are eating balanced, complete 3 meals a day. If they are eating 3 meals a day they are also spending ridiculous amounts of time working out and that’s not healthy either. Their bodies are ugly.

Everyone praises Angelina Jolie for how beautiful she is, while I’m wondering, beautiful where? Yes, she has a pretty face but her body?! She looks like a walking skeleton! You can see every vein, every muscle, and every bone in her body. There’s a reason why she wears those flowing dresses. I believe it’s because she doesn’t want everyone to know how skinny she really is.

This is her in Tomb Raider back in 2001. She was skinny but she had the perfect combination of fat and muscle.

Now in 2011 she’s nothing but skin and bones. There is nothing sexy about this. She looked so much better when she had some weight on her. She’s only 36 years old but she looks well into her 40’s because of her weight. The secret to looking younger is not losing weight but being your proper weight. And this is under weight for her. Yes, she has always been skinny but this is ridiculous.

When Kelly Ripa jumped on the scene in the soap “All My Children”, she was a healthy, normal looking woman. She looked young and vibrant, much like the character she played on the show, Hayley Vaughan. This made her very likable, relatable, and beautiful. Even after 3 children, she has maintained her beautiful glow but now, she has taken the lose-the-baby-weight concept to a whole new level.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to get in shape and be “healthy”, but the definition of healthy has changed dramatically in the past 10 years. Kelly could stand to gain 5-7lbs. It wouldn’t hurt. I just don’t understand how she thinks this is sexy? What’s sexy about being able to see your bones?

Is it worth being able to fit in a size ’00’ dress? I understand that for celebrities their image is everything and they have to look their best at all times, but they should also be realistic and honest. Not everyone is supposed to be skinny. We don’t all have the same body type and that’s okay. For those people who feel that celebrities have to weigh a certain weight to be considered beautiful, have a screwed sense of self.

Money and beauty goes hand in hand, but the line has to be drawn somewhere. There are women all over the world that look at celebrities and try to emulate this flawed sense of beauty and health, not knowing that they have personal trainers, chefs, and busy schedules which keeps them constantly on the go.

LeAnn Rimes looked normal when she was married to Dean Sheremet in 2002.

She was thin but she looked healthy. Fast forward to 2011 to pictures she tweeted of her in a bikini on the beach.

She looks like a skeleton.  She received major backlash for these pictures and to her frail body, but she continually refutes claims that she’s anorexic or has an eating disorder. She claims she’s very healthy and eats all the time but the proof is in the photos. This is not healthy!

It’s all about self-esteem. Once women are comfortable with themselves (at whatever weight they are) and not concerned about what other people have to say about them, then they can be free! Free from what society claims a woman should look like and free to eat whatever she wants. Being healthy is eating a balanced portion of all the foods on the food pyramid (you remember that?) and exercising on a regular basis. So that means you can have chocolate and still be healthy. It’s all in moderation people.

Thanks to Jennifer Lopez, Beyonce and Kim Kardashian for making the tush the new ‘it’ thing. Everybody wants one. I hope one day society will change what the definition of beauty is, so that women can feel good about themselves at all times, even if they’re not a size 0.

So the question is should we blame the women for projecting a false definition of healthy or should we blame society for setting a distorted level of beauty that women are expected to uphold?

Photos: Google Images

Seriously though…who didn’t see this coming?

It’s one thing to catch your man cheating but it’s quite another to find out he not only cheated but now he’s being accused of sexual assault. That’s what happened to Vanessa Bryant, wife of LA Lakers basketball star Kobe Bryant back in 2004. I’ve dealt with a cheating mate in the past but to deal with it in the public eye, with everyone watching you, I’m not sure how I would have done it.

Vanessa, on the other hand, took the high road and stood by her man. She was beside him, hands enclosed in his, as he denied the rape allegations against him and she didn’t speak publicly about it, which helped settle the situation. And on top of that she got a nice sparkler for staying put, otherwise known by People.com as ‘The Apology Ring’.

Now, after more alleged affairs have surfaced, Vanessa has said enough is enough! She filed for divorce from Kobe, December 16th and since there was no prenup, Vanessa will continue to keep up the lavish lifestyle she has come accustomed to for the last 10 1/2 years.

Which has me thinking….

Shouldn’t wives in the public eye kind of assume their husbands are going to cheat sometime in the marriage? I know that sounds a little suspect, but hear me out. Athletes, singers, rappers, actors, anyone in the public eye whose deemed a celebrity in some degree, has women around them all the time. And not your average woman. We’re talking about women who pride themselves on looking the VERY best at all times!

Men, in the public eye, have no choice but to look at these women. I’m not saying they should get a past and I am no way giving them an excuse to cheat, but this is reality. Men love to look at attractive women and for the wives of these celebrity men, you have to be aware of this fact and be okay that your husband might test the waters once or twice.

These sexpot women, sometimes push themselves on celebrity men because they know men can’t resist a big butt and a smile and because there is always an incentive in it for them: MONEY.

So both people are happy: cheating husband who wants attractive lady and the mistress, who loves the thrill of being with a celebrity and gets a taste of the fast and free lifestyle.

Which brings us to the million dollar question every celebrity wife should ask herself. Should I accept the fact that my husband might cheat and still live this lavish lifestyle or if I ever find out he’s cheating, the marriage is over as fast as the ink dries. But why don’t the women put a stipulation in the prenup (if there is one) about cheating? Like if the celebrity is caught cheating she can cheat too, or she gets a certain amount of money if he is caught. I know money will never make up for the emotional turmoil cheating afflicts on one’s heart, but it can most certainly help when restarting your life and career.

The moral of this story is for women to be smart, logical, and realistic when getting married, especially if you’re marrying a celebrity. You can’t control what your husband does in the marriage, but you can protect yourself in the event he does not value your wedding vows just as much as you do.

Source: TMZ, People.com

Images courtesy of Google Images and People.com

Hello world!

 

Hello world indeed. This is my first go at the blog world and I must say that I am excited and nervous at the same time. I’m not really sure what to expect.

This blog is all about truth and reality, hence the name. I won’t bite my tongue and the posts will be my own opinion about things that I feel are important (or not). I hope you will share in the entertainment as well, because some posts will be funny while others will be serious.

This is the beginning of something very glorious! I hope. 😉

Happy Reading!